A Letter to My 18-Year-Old Self
I’m sure you’ve seen many things by now, and I’m sure that you’re readying yourself for college so that you can find your place in the world.
Listen very carefully: College may be needed to get that diploma, but college is not the way you learn your place in life. In fact, most of the skills you will need are not learned in college, and most of the skills that you need to succeed as you begin “adulting” were not taught by your parents or your grandparents.
If you decide you need to go to college, take everything with a grain of salt. College is there to give you the basics in life, not to teach you about life. The skills that I’ve found most valuable -- listening, speaking, problem-solving, de-escalation, and teamwork – will not be taught until you take your first job.
Speaking of the job: You’ve been told all your life that school is the way you find that “dream job.” That is also complete crap. You don’t go to school to get a “dream job.” You don’t even find a “dream job” at a company! The first jobs you will get may not be fun. They may not be your dream. They are just there to pay the bills until you can find or make your dream.
Don’t get me wrong; you should not hate them, and they should fulfill you. However, your “dream job” will become a reality when you set out on your own and start a company. Your dream will be fulfilled when you find the thing that God wants you to do, and not what you want to do for yourself.
God will put that dream into your heart, and that dream will result in your activities pointing others to Him. Until that time, the “jobs” you are looking for are just there to pay bills and to begin to stockpile money so that you can start your company someday.
Lastly, find people who are smarter than you. Not your friends. Not the credit card companies. Find millionaires and – if possible – billionaires. Have them teach you everything you know. Find couples that have been married for 30+ years, happily. Let them teach you about relationships. Find pastors and church goers who aren’t just surviving, but thriving. All that knowledge will make up for the lack of knowledge – and downright incorrect teaching – that you have gained from your parents. Don’t get into a relationship, don’t make a major financial decision, and don’t lock yourself into a church until you have explored and learned.
What the world teaches young adults like you is that it’s okay to barely survive, just to get a job for your lifetime, just to take care of yourself.
You are destined for more. You are destined for greatness, and God has put you on earth for a purpose, and with a specific set of skills/potential that only you can unlock.
Go, and find that key to your greatness!